On Marriage

Marriage is such a silly thing.

Two people, usually in their twenties(prime of their life), come together to legally declare their togetherness.

Why? I guess I can understand why marriage is necessary...kinda.

But not really.

What changes? If I based all of my opinions on Stand Up Comics, I'd say that the only thing that changes is the level of sex. Also, you both slowly start to hate each other. Luckily, I'm not that pessimistic. I'm sure that happens for some people, but I bet a lot of marriages are happy.

But seriously, what changes? If I date a girl for two years, and we get married on the 2nd day into the two year relationship - what changes? It's now socially permissible(in all circles, instead of some) for us to live together, and to have children. And we stop having sex as much(if we were having sex before). And we start hating one another.

But what changes? We have rings now. The rings represent our love and commitment to one another, or something like that. But why does it take a ring to express that? If, two years and 0 days into my relationship, I both love my girlfriend and am committed to her, shouldn't those feelings still exist two years and 1 day into the relationship?

Maybe we marry because it makes it more difficult to separate. We're bound legally now. So if we break up, we can't just...break up. Unless I want to give her half of my stuff, and I DO NOT want to give her half of my stuff.

Marriage is odd enough in and of itself. It as a 'thing' is odd. The whole process is odd. But what I think is the oddest of all of these oddities is that, of EVERYONE a person has ever been with, of EVERYONE a person has ever spoken to - they are so convinced that this ONE person is THE person. This is THE person they are 'meant' to be with. Or something like that.

I don't buy into the whole 'the one' horseshit. I think that there are many people that you're compatible with, and if, at the right time, you're with a compatible person - it 'feels' right. It feels like this is THE person. It's all left up to chance - Chaos Theory and stuff. If my great grandmother hadn't sneezed at a particular time, there's a chance she might not have met my great grandfather, and then - I wouldn't exist.

It's the same thing with marriage, except with us and not our great grandfather. If you go to blockbuster you might meet Charlie. If you meet Charlie, you might fall in love, get married, and have kids. But if you decide to stay in, you might not meet Charlie. Instead, you could be going to the vending machine and meet Zach. And you might fall in love, and get married, and have kids. Or not.

The point is, it's all up to chance, I don't think there's a such thing as 'the one' we're 'meant to be' with. The person you're with at a certain time in your life is who you'll end up living happily ever after with. Or not, depending on how the marriage goes.

Which brings me to my next point. 6/10 of marriages fail, but we still marry. If a doctor came to you with an experimental antibiotic for some theoretical illness you had, and it had a 60% chance of killing you, would you take it? If the parachute had a 60% failure rate, would you go sky diving? I wouldn't.

But I plan on getting married.